Today I had the privilege of meeting up with my great friends and inspirational speakers Richard & Liz. We talked about all sorts of things to do with success, self-development and happiness and as ever, I left with a whole load of exciting new ideas and insights.
I could write several posts on the outcomes of this meeting, but I just want to share one with you today. We were talking about the ability of effective communicators to engage and connect with their audience. Richard has an uncanny knack of coming up with a pithy, simple statement that is just bursting with meaning.
Richard made the statement that “perfection isn’t the same as connection” and this got me thinking.
Many presenters and speakers waste their time trying to create the “perfect” presentation and forget that the key to effective communication is connection, not perfection. In fact, perfection tends to get in the way of connection.
Liz demonstrated this with a little story about a story that she heard on a personal; development CD recently. The “guru” was telling the story of how a lady delegate had come up to him at the end of the break, She asked “How can you possibly be happy all the time?” Surely you must get just a little depressed occasionally?” To which the guru answered “No, I never get down any more.” The immediate effect of this reply was to create a barrier between the lady and the speaker. How could she possibly connect with someone who was so perfect!
Now I don’t know about you, but I have yet to meet anyone who is that perfect. We all have our down times, but that doesn’t make us bad people, it just makes us human. If we are going to connect with other people, we need to be able to be authentic and honest.
One of the best ways of achieving connection is to share some of your own “story” with your audience. And I don’t mean just the good stuff either. Let’s be real, and by sharing our imperfections connect with the rest of the human race, who have imperfections too.