Comments on: Discourage Critical Feedback If You Want To Improve Faster http://www.inter-activ.co.uk/presentation-skills/discourage-critical-feedback/ ideas & techniques for for improving your speaking, presenting and influencing skills Fri, 03 Feb 2012 14:34:07 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Gavin Meikle http://www.inter-activ.co.uk/presentation-skills/discourage-critical-feedback/#comment-3020 Gavin Meikle Mon, 16 Aug 2010 15:03:14 +0000 http://www.inter-activ.co.uk/blog/2007/12/05/discourage-critical-feedback-if-you-want-to-improve-faster/#comment-3020 Thanks for the comment Stephen. You are right in that, if received with the right mindset, negative comments can be useful. NLP gives us the presupposition, "There is no failure, only feedback". However in practice this can be a real challenge for many of my clients. Some people have received an overdose of well intentioned but none the less hurtful criticism when younger and as a result are hyper-sensitive. Your comment prompted me to review the research in this area and as a result I found a great video on the subject of positive emotions made by postivity researcher Barbara Fredrickson. I liked it so much I posted it on my blog http://www.inter-activ.co.uk/?p=1671 so your comment made a real difference! http://www.inter-activ.co.uk/?p=1671 Thanks for the comment Stephen. You are right in that, if received with the right mindset, negative comments can be useful. NLP gives us the presupposition, “There is no failure, only feedback”. However in practice this can be a real challenge for many of my clients. Some people have received an overdose of well intentioned but none the less hurtful criticism when younger and as a result are hyper-sensitive. Your comment prompted me to review the research in this area and as a result I found a great video on the subject of positive emotions made by postivity researcher Barbara Fredrickson. I liked it so much I posted it on my blog http://www.inter-activ.co.uk/?p=1671 so your comment made a real difference!

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]]> By: Stephen Hendren - presentation skills trainer http://www.inter-activ.co.uk/presentation-skills/discourage-critical-feedback/#comment-3018 Stephen Hendren - presentation skills trainer Mon, 16 Aug 2010 13:48:17 +0000 http://www.inter-activ.co.uk/blog/2007/12/05/discourage-critical-feedback-if-you-want-to-improve-faster/#comment-3018 You make some interesting points and certainly this is an approach when giving feedback personally. I would however say that discouraging negative feedback is robbing yourself of a valuable source of information. Perhaps it is better to accept that some people will communicate this poorly or in a way that could be hurtful but if you approach them from a mindset that you forgive them their shortcomings and try to take on board the positive aspect of the criticism (as you discuss with your "umm" example) then it is a lot easier to receive that criticism. You make some interesting points and certainly this is an approach when giving feedback personally. I would however say that discouraging negative feedback is robbing yourself of a valuable source of information. Perhaps it is better to accept that some people will communicate this poorly or in a way that could be hurtful but if you approach them from a mindset that you forgive them their shortcomings and try to take on board the positive aspect of the criticism (as you discuss with your “umm” example) then it is a lot easier to receive that criticism.

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]]> By: Unhappy in your job and know there must be something better? » Blog Archive » Feedback: focus on the positive http://www.inter-activ.co.uk/presentation-skills/discourage-critical-feedback/#comment-41 Unhappy in your job and know there must be something better? » Blog Archive » Feedback: focus on the positive Fri, 07 Dec 2007 07:50:02 +0000 http://www.inter-activ.co.uk/blog/2007/12/05/discourage-critical-feedback-if-you-want-to-improve-faster/#comment-41 [...] reminded to mention this today after reading a blog entry from the Reluctant Presenters Guide. It’s an interesting posting and I recommend that you read [...] [...] reminded to mention this today after reading a blog entry from the Reluctant Presenters Guide. It’s an interesting posting and I recommend that you read [...]

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